Writers, Say Goodbye to Negative Self-Talk and Hello to Relentless Optimism!
By Gail Tagarro / 22 September 2022 / 5 minutes of reading
Welcome back to the companion series for the Writer's Connect Newsletter. This week's post hails from Issue 66, which encouraged you to examine yourself for negativity bias towards your own work.
On one hand, you may be excited about an idea you've had for a piece and can't wait to get started. Before you hit the ground running however, or maybe even a little ways in, you start second-guessing it.
"No one would want to read this," you say.
But you're forgetting someone very important—you!
Thank you to guest blogger Tyrone Couch for contributing this post.
Constructive vs. Destructive
It is not only good to be critical of your work, but essential to the writing process. Without regularly casting an appraising eye over it, you'd be left with plot holes, dull romances, and dead ends. That said, it's entirely possible to take things too far and end up becoming a detractor to your own work.
On some level, you must learn to separate yourself from your ideas. If you find yourself thinking that one of them is 'stupid' or 'boring', consider this: would you still think so if someone else had come up with it? Do you really think that it's no good, or are you just afraid that other people will think it is?
It would be terribly sad to think that an idea was automatically bad just because you came up with it! Those quirky little moments in your writing that are uniquely you are the scariest things to put out there, but they also hold the greatest potential for leaving a lasting impression and distinguishing yourself as a writer.
Remember the Feeling!
The ideas for our work come to us in many different ways. Sometimes, they come to us in a dream. Others, we're inspired by something we've seen, read, or heard in the outside world. It may be something we've been meaning to write for our whole lives, or we might've had to sit at a desk for days on end trying to cobble together a concept.
Regardless of how it happens, when we find something we want to write about, we know. The moment we entertain the idea of turning that one little spark into an explosion big enough to create an entire universe, there's a wonderful spike of serotonin. We want to drop whatever we're doing and get to work immediately.
But as transcendent as this moment is, we're still perfectly capable of convincing ourselves that we shouldn't follow through with it. We can get tripped up by self-doubt, fear of rejection, or a false sense of being alone in our proclivities. Even if we manage to stave them off in the beginning, they can resurface whenever the writing gets tough.
It's times like these we need to remember that spark. However distant it may seem, it will always be there to guide you!
Don't Worry So Much About Others
The common theme in these inhibiting thoughts is that they all involve other people's opinions. While it pays to have your audience in mind to an extent, first and foremost, you should be writing for yourself.
To put things in perspective, you are one of nearly eight billion people. Among those, there are only so many personality types and interests. Even if you write entirely for yourself, with no one else in mind, there will be eight billion chances that someone else will enjoy it. Even if only 0.01% of the world's population are anything like you, that's still 100,000 like-minded people who are predisposed to love whatever you might have to say!
Something that is amorphous has no distinct shape or form. It can describe physical things, such as clouds, or even thoughts and ideas that are not yet fully formed.
After centuries on the ocean floor, the ship was an amorphous wreck. Though he spoke with great conviction, the ideals he claimed to live by were vague and amorphous.
Quotidian Quote
"If there's a book that you want to read, but it hasn't been written yet, then you must write it." ~ Toni Morrison
Get Competitive!
A selection of current writing competitions YOU can enter!
Miller Williams Poetry Prize
Format: Poetry Theme: Any Word Count: max. 90 pages Entry Fee: $28 Prize: $5,000 plus publication Closes: 30/09/22
Before you go all-in on an entry for any of the above competitions, it's highly recommended that you look over the fine print to make sure that your submission qualifies and you're happy with the terms of engagement.
To help yourself make an informed decision, the Australian Society of Authors has a highly informative post on their website called 'What to look for in a writing competition's T&Cs' . To locate the article, click on 'Home', then 'News'.
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